The internet has scolded a woman for snapping at her sister as she left her wedding due to her child’s emergency.
A woman under the anonymous username u/TASisterWeddimg, posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, shared her story to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has more than 7,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) started her story by explaining that she recently attended her twin sister’s wedding as she was the bridesmaid. On the day of the wedding, the OP wrote that she left her children with her in-laws because the wedding was child-free. Although she was the bridesmaid, she asked a fellow bridesmaid for help with marriage duties.
The OP explained where the conflict started: “About 10 minutes before everything started (I was there for 2 hours), my in-laws called and said that my youngest hit his head while playing with my oldest and that they were taking him to the hospital. despaired, although they said he was conscious, my heart was not at peace, nor my husband’s, so we decided to go to the hospital.’
When she told her sister, she had a “meltdown” saying that the OP couldn’t leave her on “the most important day of her life” and that she chose her son over her. She said shamelessly, “Yes, I choose my son in the hospital.”
She wrote that her son suffered minor injuries when he received two stitches. They kept him in the hospital for observation because he was so young. She wrote that she was not around her phone and when she got home she missed several calls and called her sister back.
The OP wrote: “She previously asked how my son was doing and when she heard it was a minor injury she started screaming that I had abandoned her at the most important moment in her life and that she had no family in her own marriage (no parents and grandparents).”
“I left my responsibilities to a person who did everything wrong and caused embarrassment and to make matters worse, I didn’t even want to show up because my husband could stay in the hospital while at least I would share this moment with her. She called me several names until my husband took the cell phone out of my hand and told her to fuck off I really could have at least gone to the party but I wouldn’t make it knowing my baby is in the hospital I feel sorry with my sister,” she concluded.
News week has contacted you/TASisterWeddimg for comment.
News week has published several articles on weddings, including a man who was backed up for taking back payment for his daughter’s wedding, a “buzzkill” bridesmaid was backed for not going to a bride’s bachelorette party, and how a bride was beaten because she banned her parents from her wedding because they had given away her old room.
What to do if your child has a minor head injury:
Head injuries are common in children and teens. What should you do if your child accidentally bumps his head? According to kidshealth.org, contact your health care provider immediately if your child:
- is a baby
- loses consciousness even for a second
- won’t stop crying
- complains of a headache or neck pain
- vomits more than once
- doesn’t wake up easily
- you find it difficult to comfort your child
- your child does not walk or speak well
If your child is older than a baby and does not lose consciousness, observe your child closely for 24 hours and place an ice pack on the infected area for 20 minutes every three to four hours.
U/stacity had the best comment of over 9,000 votes: “[Not the a**hole] ‘…she started screaming and said I abandoned her…’ She would rather you abandon your child to stay with this grown woman? She is [the a**hole]!”
[Not the a**hole]. Your sister needs to chill. Yes, it was a minor injury in the end, but it could have been worse. Always better to prevent than to cure. She sounds a bit like a bridezilla. Her first concern (earlier in the post when you left the wedding) was that you had “let her down,” not whether your child was okay. I understand her day is important, but she shows you where her priorities are,” said u/thew0rldisquiethere1.
“[Not the a**hole]. Your baby had to go to the hospital, and I don’t care how wonderful my husband is, there’s no way I could function at a wedding or a party or anywhere, knowing my kid was in the hospital. OP, you had to be there for your child as much (or more) than your child needed you there,” wrote u/FilthyDaemon.
“NTA. I would have left my own wedding if one of my children had been injured,” noted u/Maroon_Fox2521.