Pamela Anderson says her marriage to Tommy Lee was “ruined” by the release of their infamous sex tape.
In an excerpt from the Baywatch alum’s new memoir, Love, Pamelaobtained by People magazine, she writes about falling for and marrying the Mötley Crüe drummer in 1995. She said the theft and release of their stolen honeymoon tape put a strain and stress on their relationship and led to their dramatic disconnection.
“My relationship with Tommy may have been the only time I was ever truly in love,” wrote Anderson, who was married to Lee from 1995 to 1998, followed by Kid Rock (2006-2007) and Rick Salomon (2007-2008). , which was annulled) and (2014-2015), Jon Peters (2020-2020, although not legal), and Dan Hayhurst (2020-2022).
After walking out on a beach in Cancun shortly after meeting — with the bride in a bikini and the groom in board shorts — “we just wanted to have babies and be together forever,” the couple said. Playboy cover star wrote. From that time: “We had fun and our rule was no rules.”
In the same year, a 54-minute home video shot by the newlyweds was stolen from a safe in their home, reduced to eight minutes of sex scenes, and circulated. They fought it in court for years, but it was already all over the internet. They never made any money from the sale.
“It’s ruined lives, starting with our relationship — and it’s inexcusable that people to this day think they can profit from such a horrible experience, let alone a crime,” wrote Anderson, who wrote there. never looked at and gave Hulu’s shade. Pam and Tommy because it’s a retelling of last year’s story.
The stolen video added attention and unwanted stress to the couple, who were simply trying to navigate the ups and downs of newlywed life. Anderson suffered a miscarriage in 1995. They subsequently had their two sons: Brandon Thomas Lee in 1996 and Dylan Jagger Lee in 1997.
In 1998, Lee was arrested on charges of spousal assault, with Anderson receiving an emergency protection order. He entered a plea deal and was sentenced to 180 days in prison and community service.
In the book, Anderson wrote about the incident. She said while holding 7-week-old Dylan in her arms and playing 1-year-old Brandon nearby, “Tommy yanked Brandon off me and threw me and Dylan against a wall.” She said she panicked and called 911.
“Our hell began,” wrote Anderson, who filed for divorce the next day, citing irreconcilable differences. The divorce was finalized that year. (It was the second time she had filed for divorce after withdrawing one in 1996.)
“Divorce from Tommy was the hardest, lowest, hardest point of my life,” Anderson wrote. “I was crushed. I still couldn’t believe the person I loved the most was capable of what happened that night. We were both devastated, but I had to protect my babies.”
The celebrity couple eventually got back together after the divorce and Lee served his prison sentence. They were off and on, around their various other relationships, throughout the 2000s.
As for their relationship today, she said they “check in from time to time,” adding that Lee, who is married to fourth wife Brittany Furlan, “is the father of my children and I am eternally grateful.”
Anderson moved to her hometown of Ladysmith, British Columbia in 2020. A short pandemic marriage with a construction worker who was renovating her house ended in early 2022. She told People she leads “a more romantic life now that I’m alone than in relationships… I’m sure it would be nice if someone else was in my life and wanted the same thing, but I’ve just never met them. It’s mostly about catering for them, and there has to be a balance.”