In a post that has gone viral on social media, a partner has been torn after he “banned” their husband from going on a concert tour with his siblings.
An affiliate under the anonymous username u/Few-Yogurtcloset8212, published on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, shared their story to get the opinion of the “AITA” followers. The popular post has more than 4,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) started their story by explaining that their husband, “Tom”, and his siblings, “Maggie” and “Daniel”, have been huge fans of a particular rock band since their teens. They went to several shows around the country to see as many concerts as possible before the oldest brother, Daniel, went to training camp.
“Daniel married a wealthy man when he got out and now basically does nothing all day except clean up the house and help his partner’s parents and aunts when they need it,” the OP explained, “I understand that this band a few years ago was breaking up and doing a farewell tour They were doing a show on Daniel’s birthday in another country and his partner’s present would be for him to fly him, his siblings and their brother-in-law to that country to see it concert Maggie ended up sick in the hospital, so none of them went because they didn’t want to go without her.’
Luckily for them, one of the band members went solo and planned to tour in the future. Daniel and his partner told Tom and Maggie that they would pay for everything. They planned to attend four shows and travel in an RV and the trip would take two weeks.
The OP explained where the conflict started: “Tom told me all about the plan and I definitely didn’t tell him. Now their brother-in-law and I are invited too, but I live in the real world. Mature adults are also old to act like “I told him to act like teenage groupies. Tom offered that we only go for a week instead. I still told him no. He now has a wife and we have responsibilities at home and for each other.”
“If we were to take a vacation of 1 or 2 weeks, it should be by ourselves to do something that we both enjoy. What exactly did he expect me to do on the evenings of the concerts? I tried to the music to listen, but it’s not for me He won’t drop this and keep trying to compromise. I’ve told my parents about it and surprisingly they agree with Tom and think we should go,” they concluded.
News week contacted u/Few-Yogurtcloset8212 for comment.
News week has published several articles on conflicts between couples, including a woman who was criticized for suggesting her partner not to contact their young son, a man who left the internet stunned after telling his wife she was “incapable of to be a mother”, and one woman was supported for calling her husband a “selfish brat” over tea.
How to compromise in a relationship
Are you in a similar situation where you don’t seem to compromise with your partner? According to brides magazine, here are some ways to compromise in your relationship:
- Communicate your needs clearlyUsing “I” to confront your partner about your feelings and tell them exactly what you want and why.
- Listen to your partner without interrupting: Allow your partner to explain their side of the story and don’t dismiss their opinions and thoughts.
- View all your options: You and your partner have more than two choices in your possible disagreement; try to find other options that meet both of your needs.
- Look at your predicament from your partner’s point of view: In addition to your opinion, try to understand where your partner comes from and what he might sacrifice.
- Think what’s fair: One partner can’t make all the decisions because a relationship is a two-way street. Try to find a middle ground with your partner.
- When you and your partner make a decision, stick with it: After you have considered all the options, you and your partner should sit down and make a decision and stick to it.
“[You’re the a**hole]. You criticize your husband’s interests as childish. You admit that in no way will this affect your finances OR your ability to take another vacation together, because Daniel and his partner will pay for everything, even the cost of living if your husband is affected by taking up this free time. to take. You have no cards to play here except the ones that make you seem petty and selfish,” wrote u/NorthernLitUp, which received the most response from over 20,000 votes.
u/thewhiterosequeen said: “[You’re the a**hole]. Cost is not a problem and you do not indicate that children are a problem. It sounds like a great band experience after one of your husband’s siblings is hospitalized.”
You/Riley_Coyote questioned, “[You’re the a**hole]. I expected a newborn baby to be in the photo. There isn’t, so why are you so controlling?”
“[You’re the a**hole] Adults are allowed to have fun and this is something your husband and his siblings want to do. Your real objection seems to be that you don’t like the music and it won’t be fun for you. You don’t want to let him have this experience with his siblings because you don’t want to do it and you don’t want him to go without you. Your man has a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to make a great memory with his siblings. Don’t take that away from him,” remarked u/miyuki_m.